Self Love

Well I love you,
I love your smile,
I love your personality,
I love your attitude.

All of these come after,
We love ourselves,
We love our smiles,
We love our personality,
We love our attitude.

What is self love? What is it's significance? What importance does it hold? Lot's of questions, right? Well, we will get to each and every one of them.

Self love is very simple and literally means to love oneself. Love for me is an amalgamation of care, kindness, lust, respect, understanding, support and jealousy. Often people consider these things as very different from what love is and tag them as the elements to be found when somebody is in love. True that is, but these traits are not just the underlying or branching elements but are what constitutes the entire emotion of love.

Being an underlying element and being a constitutional or structural part is two big different things. It is just like feeling the energy rush after coffee which is an underlying element but not the milk or coffee powder which constitutes the coffee. It is kind of very unique and individualistic sort of emotion.

Why?

Because for me the elements that constitutes love are different from what others might define love to have. Just to be clear that, while being in a love relationship with somebody we first need to know that whether we love ourselves or not. Loving ourselves includes the methodologies to know ourselves, to understand the flow of emotions in ourselves, to know the threshold of comfortability and connectivity in ourselves, to know the intution's presentation in ourselves, to know the value of self praise and realisation in ourselves and to know the idea of consistent sustainability in ourselves.

Simultaneously another issue that arises is of being self-centered or obsessed and selfish. The junction that divides the two is not distinct and very flexible and thin. Flexibility causes us to divert and change sides. That is what makes the junction to vanish and difficult to notice. Most of the times we cross that thin junction towards the other side which is not required and do not particularly realise it.

In reality the entire process of loving ourself is very satisfying and comforting. We tend to enjoy our own luxury and our own pamper. The process eventually makes us used to that connection. This might be misleading at times which gives rise to greed of self love leading to selfishness and self obsession.

The concept of self love was never to make anyone engrouped. It is always for us to understand the true meaning of love so that we can pour out the same. No matter what others feeds or teaches us, we ourselves are the one who are there to apply it, feel it and then to finally seal it. It is for us to understand that no matter what, we are the ones who can identify love for ourselves cause we already know,
What we like and how we like it.
What we feel and how we deal with it.

Movies and drama culture have this idea of showing people giving up their lives for each other and what not, cause they are in love. But the idea is often virtual. This is simply because the correct understanding of loving ourselves will allow us to know what kind of a situation we are in. We are in the fantasy of the so called 'LOVE' where we love someone even before loving ourselves.

Most often this is what is leading us to adsorb the ones we love rather than absorbing them. This happens because we never tried how to, which ultimately comes from how we never loved ourselves the way we should have.

We can never love someone properly until we know how to love ourselves.

We can never treat someone properly until we know how to treat ourselves.

We can never feel someone properly until we know how to feel ourselves.

So love yourself, treat yourself and feel yourself as I try to do the same everyday.

Comment below and let me know your idea of self love and it's significance 🤗 🤗